Words Control Environment

I worked in construction for about ten years before stepping into full-time ministry at a church. I observed something early on.

The guys (and gals) who used foul language and told crude jokes set the tone for the job site. It dominated the environment. Abusive language does the same thing in relationships.

Paul is addressing something more than just bad words when he says, “Don’t use foul or abusive language.” (Ephesians 4:29)

People use foul and abusive words to seize power instead of creating courage.

Crude jokes, cutting sarcasm, harsh tones, public shaming, and passive-aggressive comments all do the same thing. They make sure someone else stays smaller.

Controlling others with words often does irreparable damage to relationships. Don’t let that be your default.

Paul is writing to a church, learning how to live as Christ. Ephesians 4 is about putting off the old self and putting on the new. Words are one of the clearest indicators of who is in charge.

The old self asks, How do I stay on top by putting others down?
The new self asks, How do I help others stand firm?

Paul continues, “Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”

Words always shape environment.

Using your words to encourage builds courage, which is how God’s kingdom advances.